A Japanese Wedding

On April 1 my friend Coco got married in Kanazawa (Ishikawa Prefecture). She had told me about it months ago and I was quite shocked and excited.

You see, I hadn't heard from her in quite a while - over a year, in fact. She had moved to Nagoya to work and we kind of lost touch for a while -but I've kept the same address on my cell phone the whole time I've been here and she managed to track me down. So, I was shocked to hear from her and excited to know that once she was married she'd be living in Toyama Prefecture again!!


I met Coco my first year in Japan. She worked part time at a local electronics shop and because she speaks English fluently, she was able to help me out a lot, not only in the store but in getting settled in Japan.

So I was honored when she invited me to attend her wedding. As usual, I wasn't sure what to expect, but the day turned out to be a lot of fun. I took the train to Kanazawa on the morning of the wedding (the wedding was at 6:00 -night weddings are so beautiful). Checked into the hotel that Coco had booked for me and did a little shopping before meeting Takako, another of Coco's friends who was staying at the same hotel. We got into a cab together and were taken to the wedding site around 4:00. I had a hair and make-up appointment that Coco had offered to book for me along with the other members of the wedding (family). I thought it would be fun to see what goes on before the event, so I took her up on the offer. I knew it was a mistake when they started doing crazy things to my hair and making my face 3 shades paler than normal....oh well, everyone was friendly and now I can say I've seen what happens leading up to the ceremony.

I guess I should clarify that this was not a traditional Japanese wedding like the one I attended in September. This was much more Western, in fact the ceremony was a Christian ceremony with a Caucasion minister (but he performed the ceremony in Japanese). In Japan there are wedding ....what should I call them...wedding 'places', I guess. It's the whole meal deal; reception area with a lounge, hair and make up studio, garden, chapel, and dining hall all in one place.

After my hair and make up, Takako and I sat and had a drink in the lounge. I was waiting for all the guests to start streaming in -except, they didn't. I only saw about a dozen other people arrive. At 6:00 we were escorted across the garden to the chapel. Besides Coco's family (parents, sister and brother in law), Takako and I were her only other guests!! The groom had a few more -with grandparents, one of his college profs and 5 college friends. That was it!! After the ceremonly, which was short and sweet, but very beautiful, they rearranged the chapel in order to take a group photograph. Then were were escorted to the dining hall where we were all seated and treated to an amazing never-ending meal. The entertainment included the groom's mother's shamisen (traditional musical intrument) teachers and of course speeches by EVERYONE seated at the table, including me. Thankfully, Coco was there to translate everthing and once again, I felt so honored to be taking part in such an important day!

We ended with a video of the ceremony that had already been put together (courtesy of the full-meal-deal) complete with a musical background and a credit list of all the guests! What a day!

Usually there is some kind of after party involved in this type of wedding, but because the numbers were so small and nobody really knew each other, we all just went back to our hotel, soaked in the onsen (public bath) (separately of course, haha) and went to bed. I had a nice sleep in, did a little more shopping and caught the train home on Sunday- back in my apartment by early afternoon. A very, very pleasant experience.

That's Takako on the left, pale-faced me, Coco and Takanori.

The dinner party.

The Hair

OH, there's one last part of this story to tell you about...you see, it's customary in Japan for the bride and groom to give all the guests 'thank you gifts' -now this isn't too far off from Western tradtion, we leave candies or flowers on the tables for people, and give away pieces of wedding cake...however, it's a little more extravagant in Japan...here's what I took home:
















*note: the 'Fine Choice' is a catalogue - I can choose anything from it, send in a slip of paper and it's delivered to me!!